Checking in with others

What to pick up on when having a check-in?

A check-in truly is a gift from the other person. You get to experience a glimpse of their world, their thoughts, their emotions.

The person in front of you is sharing with you what the experience of being them is like.

This is the time to focus out. Receive the person. Receive who they are and what they are currently experiencing.

This is not the time to think of something clever, to solve something, to fix problems, to “be a good [insert role]”.

None of that! Tune in to the world and depths of the other person.

Step in, follow them, feel their worries, pains, excitements, dreams and values.

When you’re in this space, you will see… You don’t have to do anything. You just have to be there. Be there, in that space. The answers will come to both of you.

Because you care, you will reminisce. You will sleep on it.

Because you care, you will look for opportunities in your day to day life. You will walk on it.

Because you care, you will be responsible for the wellbeing of that person.

So it’s another one of these things… Which are simple yet difficult.

It’s not easy. We’ll get in our own ways and our mind will be drawn to common traps like cats to cardboard boxes.

But once we’re there, we’ll notice. This is simple. This makes sense. This is natural.

A lot more will be said on the concept of responsibility and how we misperceive it, which I’ll write a whole lot more about in the future.